Exclusive Interview: Asif Pishori on The Delightful Experience of Fatherhood

Written by Asif Pishori | Edited by Eve Bandusena

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Being a dad is one of the most unparalleled experiences in life. From the moment we hold our baby for the first time in our arms to supporting our children behind their major milestones, dads are there every step of the way. To show our appreciation for all dads, we’re exclusively interviewing Asif Pishori on his meaningful experience on fatherhood.
Hi Asif, pleased to meet you! Can you tell us more about yourself?
I am happily married, settled down & feeling blessed at 50 years old. I found peace and harmony in Kota Kinabalu 10 years ago, and along the way met a beautiful soul, my wife, Nancy. We got married in 2011 & we have 1 child, a beautiful boy, his name is Ben Ashton, he is 7 years old.

What are your best and worst experiences as a dad so far?
The best experience for me was definitely becoming a daddy, or as my family like to call me “Dodoi,” and that happened when I was 42. Up until that point, I thought I knew everything. I was a walking talking hands-free kit until I held my beautiful boy in my arms. 

What advice would you give to new dads?
The most important advice I could give to any new dad is to make time to spend time with your child. That is the greatest gift you can give to your child. The more time you can spend with your infant the better it is for both you and the new bond is sealed. This is a brand new role to play so give yourself time to learn how to adapt to this new role & new name you have adopted “Daddy.”

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What did you like from how your parents raised you and would you like to repeat that with your child?

There was a lot more discipline back then. But my parents never forced us to be something we didn’t want to be, they let us follow our passions, dreams, hopes, and aspirations. I respect them for that.

What type of dad do you picture yourself to be?
I think I’m a pretty cool, and relaxed dad. I observe the activities my kid is fascinated about, and try to encourage him in every way I can. The world is constantly changing, technology is rapid, so we can’t stick to just the traditional practices only.  Not to say everything must change, but we have to embrace changes and be flexible.  
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What have been your challenges so far? 
One of the biggest challenges for me was coming to terms with my son’s heart condition. Ben was born with a heart condition, Dextro Cardia, so he has to attend regular check-ups. He is a lively boy that loves to run around like crazy and we are always observing his movements and keeping him in check.
How involved are you in fatherhood duties?
I get to do all the fun activities like picking him up from school, Tae Kwon Do, playing video games and running around in the park. Whereas mummy handles all the grown activities like homework and spelling. But I can honestly say that becoming a parent has completed me. I have been enjoying a semi-retired life for the past 10 years. That gives me lots of time to spend with my family when I’m not traveling.


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