Three days ago (1 February 2020), The Borneo Post reported on the deaths of a 16-year-old mother and her 5-month-old baby.
In the article, the mom was said to be seen wandering aimlessly around the hospital grounds with her baby after doctors ordered for the child to be taken off respiratory support.
The little girl was suffering from an unnamed respiratory illness. Doctors had proclaimed that her breathing had gone back to normal.
However, things took a turn for the worst. At around 7.30am, authorities were called in to look at the injured victim and baby. It was learnt that the young mom had fallen off the sixth floor of the hospital ward.
Both were pronounced dead at the scene due to serious injuries.
District Police Chief ACP Nasri Mansor has “classified the case as sudden death but further investigations will be carried out to determine the cause of the incident.”
In a follow up article, Befrienders Kota Kinabalu expressed sadness over the report.
“Anyone who took this decision to end their lives must be having tremendous emotional pain and suffering that made them feel there’s no help available,” Befrienders Publicity Officer Jessie Ting said.
We can’t speak for the young mother nor her family, but given the circumstances we also can’t help but feel that she may have been suffering from incommunicable depression.
Women with PPD often feel an overwhelming sense of worthlessness that may manifest as an inability to bond with their child, amongst other symptoms.
They may also feel restless; are prone to anxiety attacks; have severe mood swings; are irritable and have thoughts of harming themselves or baby. In severe cases, a mom with PPD may even hear voices, hallucinate or have delusions.
PPD is a condition that is prevalent, but unfortunately not easily recognised with the majority of society talking about how beautiful motherhood is.
Maybe if we can spend some time recognising the ugly stuff that motherhood can bring; perhaps then the journey of motherhood would not have to end so tragically for some women.
If you or some you know are in distress, you may call the Befrienders KK Helpline from 7pm-10pm at: 088-255788 or 088-259788; or WhatsApp Chat 016-8036945. You may also seek help from Klinik Mentari, Hospital Mesra Bukit Padang at 088-240984.
Disclaimer: This article is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any diseases. At Parents Avenue, we strongly recommend all our readers to seek medical advice from your local hospital or clinic.
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